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Posts: 35 Registered: Dec '10  |
Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:17 am Post subject: Networking Tips-- Time to stop being sorry.
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When I first read this article it really helped me understand what I needed to do to be able to be successful academically and personally. For example, moving away from my hometown in Texas where the majority was Mexican or Mexican American to a city like East Lansing where Mexican or Mexican Americans are the minority was a huge culture shock. Because of these changes the extroverted person that I was became an introvert. These changes I dealt with personally really made it difficult for me to be able to succeed. Sad to say but it wasn’t until my Senior year in college that I began speaking with professors and to be able to gain mentors outside of my department. No matter what people say, it MATTERS who knows you and who you KNOW. It is through these relationships that I was able to move on to Graduate School and now to other educational opportunities that I wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t met these individuals. To make this short. Please read on these tips on to networking. GREAT ADVICE* I have had to read this article about 10 times to be able to grasp the importance of each point and how I can apply it into my own life. http://www.cio.com/article/164300/How_to_Network_12_Tips_for_Shy_People?page=4&taxonomyId=3127 |
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Suerte, Andie Lee Gonzalez * CAMP Graduate Assistant Migrant Student Services 249 Holden Hall East Lansing, MI 48823 Gonza233@msu.edu “We cannot seek achievement for ourselves and forget about progress and prosperity for our community... Our ambitions must be broad enough to include the aspirations and needs of others, for their sakes and for our own.” Cesar E. Chavez |
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Posts: 9 Registered: Apr '11 |
Posted: Fri Jan 20, 2012 03:55 pm
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Hello Andie, The say of it doesn't matter what you know but who you know is a real say. I am glad you are succeeding in your education. |
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Posts: 1 Registered: Jan '12 |
Posted: Mon Jan 23, 2012 09:07 am
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Reply to post by Andie Gonzalez Andie, Thank you very much for sharing this article and your story. I found this article very helpful and useful as a refresher. I am extremely communal in nature. Yet, in uncomfortable situations I am not the social butterfly that most know me as. I as well moved out of my home town for college and struggled with my new discomfort with making friends. Personally, I found the most useful tip to be #2 "Stop Apologizing." Based off of your discussion title, I assume this meant something to you as well. I have been making networks with employers on campus since freshmen year. Yet, when it comes times to ask for help from these former employers, contacts, networks etc. I find it difficult to ask for help without apologizing for the "imposition" I am causing them. I find myself starting off conversations with apologies or ending in such. I found tip #2 to be more about our own self worth and confidence. It is important to hold yourself high, especially in any relationship. What you think of yourself reflects in how you ask for help. Thus it is important to stop apologizing. While reading this article, I did not feel that it was written for any social butterfly. Yet, I still found it to be very important for everyone. Again, thank you very much for sharing this article. I have recommended it to several of my quieter friends. |
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Posts: 8 Registered: Jul '11  |
Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 01:05 am
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I enjoyed the article you shared very much. –It was awesome. I think it brought about a lot of good points. The one point I think I will put into practice more is the one about expanding networking through another person and his/her connections. I do find myself sometimes attached to one person at an event, and think that building off another relationship through the person you already know to be a great (and easier) way to network. I love how Meridith Levinson (the author of the article) humanizes the shy person: "Shy people know at their core that they're lonely and long for more intimacy. They just don't have the courage and the confidence to achieve it." She means that shy people are like any other people: they want to build relationships too (but have difficulty accomplishing it). And, instead of ostracizing the shy person for being different, she relates them to everybody else. –Isn’t that just magnificent? Lastly, her discussion on remembering names was also great. I know I feel “special” when a new acquaintance remembers my name. It’s an affirmation that they have been paying attention and have shown interest in you. My counselor and I were discussing this—the importance of memorizing names—when my club restarted last quarter. And, I know everybody feels the same way when somebody remembers their name. |
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Posts: 2 Registered: Sep '10  |
Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 09:26 pm
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Thank-you for sharing Andie! I am currently a senior at UCLA and I am also sorry to say that I am just barely talking to my professors and starting to network. I think the major problem that I have is that I am intimidated by my professors. For someone who is planning to apply to grad school next year, it is crucial for me to network and get letters of recommendation! The points that related to me the most are "Get Over the Fear of Rejection" and "Take Risks." I need to get over the fact that not everyone going to help me and that I need to be persistent and find the people who will help me. Like the author said, "Don't take it personally and don't dwell on it. It's all part of the process." I know I also need to utilize the RFDF community. I think we're all resourceful people and perhaps we could use these forums to network! |
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